Life in the world of CockAsia is lived with much consciousness. While we giggle and fuck with abandon we also process and analyze with ascetic dedication.
So with the offerings of desire, lust, passion and presence we also wanted to write a piece on what CockAsia is– something that encompassed the identities which spawned it, described the landscape through it’s conception, the process of engaging in it, and the offering of it to our communities beyond our individual meditations and isolated conversations between partners. We also knew that central to our vision was a hope that it would be something that resonated with others who were practicing similar meditations and engaged in similar conversations– that we would expand our virtual and physical salons to make space for dialogue on deconstruction that was important to us and those who we saw reflection in (as well as those that saw reflection in us) and that it would become a living, breathing, production, and reproduction of how we navigated our journeys.
We thought it only fitting that this little venture would thus be imbued with the power and the magick* of our favorite way to traverse THE JOURNEY– travel via ROADTRIP.
Roadtrips can be sweet and simple and/or intense and daunting. They boast spontaneous spirits and serendipitous occurrences. They claim to be for the light hearted and laissez faire traveler that is ready for anything, but in truth a ROADTRIP is only navigated by the dedicated and stubborn masochist in all of us.
The identity of the traveler as yielding and pliable is mercilessly and unrelentingly tested– not just tested for it’s steadfastness but more importantly for it’s state of utter obedience. The ROAD commands and demands complete deference– to weather, traffic, car trouble, dirty restrooms, bad food, interactions that are awkward at best, life/soul threatening at worst, and countless other sadistic scenarios and masters. Once you commit and the scene commences you agree to play without safe words… when you come to your edge… the only alternative is to bite down and surrender shuttering with anticipation at future humiliations or to re-trace the rugged terrain from whence you came– feeling every patch of gravel and pothole in the road as your now scarred and bruised body is rattled and jostled. You can choose to struggle without insight gained or you can let each cringe and gasp and vibration whip your wet and weary soul onto its knees, head bowed, lustily requesting more sting and intensity– each crack cutting through the air towards you– closer to the endorphin enlightened clarity that you both fear because it means experiencing death and also desire because it offers growth and rebirth.
“The masochist struggles (with varying degrees of unsuccess)– kicks and screams against the downward pull– while still letting go and falling. The ground to which he falls is solid, the humus of which he is made, his substance. While it breaks him down, it also breaks his fall. The blacker it is, the richer it is, like fertile earth. In this damp humiliation of descent, the masochist may be close to a new insight, a fresh image, a new green possibility, a potential change.” p.83-4, Masochism, A Jungian View, Lyn Cowan
It is in honor of this juxtaposition, in knowledge of our soul’s need for “mortificatio– the operation of mortification p.63,” that we take on the posture of AMOR FATI (the love of fate p.93) as we set out on this ROADTRIP– asking The Collective Tarot for Guidance on our JOURNEY.
- What do we want for ourselves? In this project? In our love relationships? Life? Etc?
DISASTER (The Collective Tarot’s Tower Card) 16
This card has long been in our lives and in our hearts. Early on in our relationship Asia asked the Collective Tarot for guidance on her growing/restructuring family and her budding relationship with Cock. She knew her world was expanding but it seemed to be doing so in a way that shook the foundations of the life she had built to the core. Her pull (like all pulls) answered in the affirmative to the things we already feel but can’t yet offer voice. When she asked about her role she drew The Magician, assuring/challenging her to take accountability for her own power and use it wisely/consciously in interaction with the magic and power of others. When she asked about the relationship she drew Disaster. The Disaster card is the insight and revelation that we seek– it’s the journey to freedom if we refuse the temptation of getting stuck in coping and oppression. It begs us to “surrender with agency,” it invites us to reframe disaster as liberation rather than adversity. Of course, this is what we would draw for this passion project spurned out of a breath, a jump and leaning into a kiss/fate.
- What do we want for our partners? Our community? What do we want to share/express?
ACE OF KEYS (The Collective Tarot’s Fire/Wand Suit)
The Ace of Keys offers all of the raw energy of the fire suit- it crackles and blazes with newly sparked kindle. It’s a shift in energy and an invitation to be fearless and daring but it warns us to play and explore with some structure to hold safety and maintain clarity. We had both delved into community and adventure in different ways before our meeting. We had both gotten burned by the wildfires of abandon, vulnerability, trust and enthusiasm. Our meeting was a practice in re-negotiating safety in self and,the networks we were building, trust in others.
- What is the Heart of the Matter? How do we do that? What is our guidance?
SEVEN OF KEYS
“Each time we speak our truth- be it in intimate relationships or in direct opposition of institutions holding power- the effects ripple outward. It’s time to let your creative, brilliant self rise up and make some noise.” The Seven of Keys didn’t offer us encouragement without warning. It didn’t promise that there wouldn’t be times when our fires would burn low in danger of being extinguished. It did demand that we not shy away from our fire, that we speak with our authentic voices and we take the risk to be visible to our communities so that they might reflect love, agreement, support and revolution back to us.
In submission,
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