5 Things Cis People Can Actually Do For Trans People (Now That You Care About Us)

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The (Trans)cendental Tourist

It’s been a weird year for trans people.

Allow me to be more specific: It’s been a heated, daring, tumultuous, graphic, specularizing, aggressive, pointed,contentious, highlyfatal, and really, really complicated year for trans people.

Here are a few examples: Kristina Gomez Reinwald, Ty Underwood, Lamia Beard, and many othertranswomen of color have been brutally murdered at the hands of lovers, family members, and strangers.Meanwhile,Laverne Cox and Janet Mock have come to fame and exhibited incrediblefeats of grace, articulation, and poignancy under the gaze ofan eager media. Blake Brockington, Leelah Alcorn, Taylor Alesana, and many other transgender youth have committed suicide afterenduring endless bullying and systematic brutality. Meanwhile, Jazz Jennings became the new face of Clean & Clear and published a children’s picture book about her life, and teen trans couple Arin Andrews and KatieHill (best known for “Can You Even Believe They’re Trans?!” types of headlines) wrote and published individual books…

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Hot Heavy Haiku

I whisper, “Drop in”

She gets lost, open for me.

Surrender, beauty.

Maddening Bliss

It’s been 48 hours without My Kitty.
At least in the direct physical sense…
She’s been with me as she always is – tugging on the strings attached to my most expansive mind, heart, and cock.

Being away is always tricky and exhausting. We are both unexpected scrappers. Seemingly quiet and casual, but always fighting some oppression somewhere…usually the one knocking on our door. When we are apart, we fight twice the battles when we cannot join forces, tagging each other out when one is starting to tire… just like they do in those scripted wrestling matches.

All pawns in a game – actors in the film.

When we scream out and dig in our nails, dig in our heels, stand up and demand a better way – it is to the face of one person who is made up of the masses – the mothers and fathers who taught them, the sisters and brothers who brought them, the dissenters like us who fought them.

Each battle gives a semblance of power in the war and a simultaneous staggering sense of loss.

If we keep fighting, will we eventually win?
If we keep fighting, will there be anyone left to enjoy the remains?

Licking the wounds of a 48 hours solo fight. 1 vs the fucking patriarchy. And I’m waiting to board my vessel to her. To respite. To the place where there is just me and her.

Where we leave it all behind and there is only room for her skin, her hips, her fingers brushing up against the place where our lips meet. Where our hips thrust. Where we come undone. And wound back up together – in each other. In ourselves. In spite of and at one with the world. All the same and all the difference.

This fierce love.
This maddening bliss.

It moves in hyper speed and in reverse, circles and swirls and pulses of electric impulse. Until it is everything and nothing.

I’ve missed you. And every time we are apart. I come back a little bit bumped and a little bit bruised. Until the marks begin to fade and the skin shows a bit of raise – whether from muscles or scars, it is a bit more hard.

And the brilliant return to you gets to bloom in the softness of contrast and contradiction.

This fierce love.
This maddening bliss.

It does not take vacations or lunch breaks. It builds and roots and shifts and moves – when no one is watching and when the world is captivated.

This fierce love.
This maddening bliss.

Is coming home to you, my sweet.

Even though it never left.

{Cock}Asia

Naughty Kitten Tales: Mondays

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ontent Warning: BDSM, Kink, Submission, Dominance, Depictions of Ownership, Bondage, Consensual Power Play, D/S

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Mondays

Since that is out of the way…

Cock here.

Mondays can be tough. But they don’t have to be.

I’ve been working a lot.

Far too much. And Asia has been left wanting. …Well not completely.

Mostly just being left sleepless because far be it for me to neglect Asia from both my daily quality time and regular evening romps and beatings.

Yesterday I was lucky enough to get the chance to come home early but was still stuck needing to do some additional work from home. I told her that I would set out to work fast so that we could get a little bit of time together before heading off to our evening duties. As I was closed off in the office typing away, lost a little in the world of to do lists and have to’s, my email screen hummed and buzzed.

Attending to each new message as it came in so as to not get too far behind, I noticed the subject line on the last ‘ding’ to be not quite business as expected.

It was my FetLife profile, and it was a message from my dear Asia’s play persona, Kitty.

We had been flirting for some time as we do in this semi public forum just for fun, and in response to my growls and calls for kitty to come purr at my feet, Asia’s message this time was a dare in response to my demand.

“Make me.” They said.

Immediately, all semblance of productivity was gone. All of the blood had rushed away from my brain and my fingers were tingling – But not with keystrokes. I closed my computer Windows, stood up from the desk, and went to go find my Kitty.

Splayed out on the bed…There they were. Wearing a white tank top and the panties I had bought for them.  They were laying ass up, my favorite.

As I approached my play pet, I looked down trying not to grin, knowing I needed to punish Kitty for having called me away from my work. But pleased that I got to do it in this fashion.

“You know daddy has to work.” I said “Since I’m here I will work YOU. But you will pay dearly for this time.”

Kitty stayed just as they were when I found them and watched as I walked to the drawers, opened them up and got our play bag from it. I slowly unzipped the black bag, and pulled from it a rope set, our safety shares, and an array of cocks.

I could feel my pet salivating and getting wet at the sight of the tools I was preparing and laying out for my use.  Just as Kitty was – Laid out for my use.

“Sit up.  On your knees.”

Kitty obliged, without saying “Yes, Sir” and I made a mental tally of five additional strikes when the beating ensued for this indescrepancy.

They waited with hands placed by their sides – The preferred placement for hard play.  It had been quite some time since we had gotten to take out our ropes and we both knew this time they would be used dearly.

As I laced Kitty up in knots and wraps, cinching every loop tight as to ensure Kitty could feel the tension.  Feel daddy wrapped around them. Feel my control and my desire.

Kitty gasped when I pulled their new chest harness to my desired taughtness – But only as deep as my ties would allow.

I grasped the loop over my pet’s breastbone, pulled Kitty’s face toward mine – pulling an ear into my mouth.

“Today we practice red light, green light.  Green for go, red for stop.  I fully anticipate taking you far into green and then rocking you back into safety once we find red.  I want to hear nothing more from you then these words and “Yes, Sir.” …Understood?”

“Yes,  Sir.”

I kissed my pet hard, reinforcing that I would be watching more than Kitty’s words to ensure their safety in our rough play.  Knowing that this sub space is deep and wide.  And this Kitty does NOT like to use safe words.  We would stretch each other in a new way this Monday.

Throwing Kitty back onto our bed with the same firm grip on the chest harness I had just fashioned, I examined the tight spots and determined which ones might need to be removed before our scene was over to ensure our play would last as long as possible while we pushed the limits.

Pulling the splay of toys and tools closer to my now restrained pet, I gathered the last two ropes from my set and wove them into the already established webbing and traced down Kitty’s thighs – Being sure to hook under their cunt and wrap around the quadracep to frame my favorite parts without compressing the femoral artery.  Leaving the last tie freed so I would be able to puppet their legs wider and closer together as I saw fit for my bidding.

Looking down at my masterpiece, I lifted one heel to my solarplexus – Positioning toes and insole of the foot in perfect teasing position.

Light licks and kisses first.

And then, sucks.

As I trace my way toward their cunt, the kisses turn to nibbles and the moans turn to growls.  I fight the urge to rush immediately to full on bites and squeezes.

I want this to last.

This will be a short warm up to ensure we get to play our full game and get to a “red light.”  I will have to push further than I have before.  I can’t waste my warm up on the usual thigh bites.  Today needs to stand out.

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Podcast: Visibility

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ey all! Our second full length CockAsia Adventures podcast is now live!

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Yup- sorry. We know it was a little bit longer than a week… but what can we say. Sometimes we rant and rave about the hustle in person and forget to hit record.

At any rate, enjoy this weeks CockAsia Adventures episode where we rant, rave and re-cap lots of #lolsob stories about visibility.

Not interested?

We also say #titsawry about 50 times and #tinykittyboner once or twice.

You can listen to it here.

Enjoy!

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NKT Audio: Carnage

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ey there CockAsians! Miss us? Ready for your next adventure???

Check out our new erotica podcast series: Naughty Kitten Tales

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This week’s adventure: Carnage can also be read here.

Enjoy and don’t forget to clean up after yourselves~

CockAsia

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Stealth be gone

This has been a phenomenal past week for me here in {Cock}Asia. From whiskey walks with Asia where we discuss our wonders and dreams to successfully #travelingwhiletrans and so much more.  (Also the hilarious photo I discovered on a lunch break that Asia awesome-ified for me.)

I’ve been thinking a LOT about disclosure. As a person who greatly values my trans/gender queer identity, it has taken a toll on my spirit to not talk about my trans experience out in the world. Most specifically in work – I have several jobs, all of which involve some form of youth work. I have had concerns (many of them reinforced through experience) that it was not safe to talk about my trans experience within these places.

In the last week, I have had a youth’s parent reach out for me to mentor them through their child’s gender identity exploration, I have communicated my gender neutral pronoun preference to a community of new coworkers, and in my most restricted job I have opened up a dialogue with my supervisor about my identity. (This supervisor was aware that I am trans from seeing me transition but we never spoke of it).

My trans identity is valuable to myself, my community, the kids and families that I work with and on.  Educating people can be exhausting but this is not how it feels right in this moment. I am merely naming my identity and allowing myself and my peers to explore how these experiences can better serve the work we do together.

It feels big. It is big.

Part of this has been inspired by a flight I took to attend a work event. For the first time, I have not needed a binder (I had top surgery this year) and my ID has my chosen name and male sex marker.

This was also the first time I did not require rigorous screening in TSA  (I was always flagged previously) and I was overwhelmed with sadness about how making my trans identity less visible makes my life easier.

I want to practice the opposite if this. I want to reinforce that my identity and it’s celebration makes the world better. Easier. For myself and others.

And for that, I will be courageous.

to celebrate, here is a little trans humor Asia and I created for you.

in solidarity,

{Cock}Asia

Not actual size

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Naughty Kitten Tales: Carnage

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ontent Warning: BDSM, Kink, Submission, Dominance, Depictions of Ownership

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Carnage

I couldn’t help but smile as I plodded around the quiet empty bedroom cleaning up after last night’s carnage but I bit my lip a little to keep from being too pleased with myself. Daddy would like that. He would scold me for being so naughty and pleased with myself but he’d also draw me into him so I could feel him growing hard as he told me what a dirty girl I was for thinking so fondly of last night’s beating. If I still looked too pleased he might turn me around, push me up against a wall, pulling both of my arms behind me. He’d hold one arm tight behind my back and stick my other hand down his pants and into him until I whimpered and started to play. Then he’d pull it out and tell me only good girls got to fuck Daddy.

I realized I had stopped moving. I gave one last sigh to the wetness forming between my legs and scurried about finishing up my chores. New play with protocol.

Protocol 1. Fix the bed. Tuck in the corners­­ even though they get ripped away and twisted every night. Everything back in it’s place. There would be a check­in at mid morning to make sure the am tasks were done.

Rewards for neatness: Time in Daddy’s lap. Spankings by hand, followed by kisses.

Punishments for a poor job or not finishing tasks by deadlines: Kneeling out of reach while Daddy strokes himself. Spankings with the switch, no kisses.

I start by pulling up the sheets and shaking them out so I can inspect them. Washing happens on Thursdays and Sundays unless I make too much of a mess or I let too much of Daddy’s mess slip out of me. I’m almost guaranteed to not make deadline when this happens. I find myself paused again, lip back between my teeth, lost in the fog of the last time that had happened. Wondering if I shouldn’t just leave one corner untucked.

Punishments for purposeful disobedience: Limbs tied to the corners of the bed. Thin flogger. No kisses. Made to come without Daddy being inside.

At least those were the rules. Daddy always seemed to make one set of ties just loose enough for me to buck with my hips and Kitty could usually talk Daddy into making her a mess with at least one load.

Punishment for topping from the bottom: Daddy’s choice. Risky. Could be all night in the corner. No spankings. No kisses.

45 minutes to check in and I still had to shower, change into the underwear that had been laid out, get wet (ahead on this step) and send a video off for inspection.

I unfurled the top sheet and strips of tank top billowed out. As I picked up the pieces I could feel the vibration of them being ripped in half across my body, used to hold me down before finally freeing them completely into two equal parts, almost unrecognizable… almost. I laid them back on the bed and snapped a picture. Daddy would be riled up even before inspection.

Tuck the bottom of the sheet in. Fold down the top. 18 inches. No further.

Comforter. Folded down 12 inches. Daddy doesn’t like to see the sheet.

Pillows. Alternating colors. Even amount on each side. Gray on top.

I started to gather the ropes off the floor where they had been flung aside. They still had knots in them. We could never quite get them off fast enough. I often had as many indentations from being fucked on top of half removed ropes as I did from where they had been tied tightly across my body.

Each one looped around my forearm, leaving enough excess to wrap twice and knot once. So they could be released in one snap of the wrist. Line them up on the bed.

The toys had to be washed next. Only one dick last night. Other than Daddy’s. Soap, water, rinse, repeat. Don’t linger too long­­ Daddy would scold that this was a chore not a reward.

Set out on a towel next to the ropes.

30 minutes left. I’d have to jump into the shower and start to bathe before the water even got warm in order to finish in time. Daddy would like it if my nipples were hard in my inspection video anyways.

20 minutes left. Dry off. The only wet spot could be where my hole leaked onto the gray cotton panties that Daddy had laid out. It had to be new cum. Why should Kitty be rewarded for the wet spot Daddy made last night?

7 minutes left. Curled up on the freshly made bed. Thin white tank top. Gray underwear with the edge of black lace­­ because I was naughty even as hard as Daddy tried to make me good. I quickly clicked my phone to video, turned it around so Daddy could see the bed, the toys and my cunt. I slipped my other hand in between my legs. This last task was never too challenging. My clit was already hard and as many times as I rinsed in the shower the wetness would start to re­surface before I could fully dry off.

3 minutes left. Sizable and visible wet spot.

Punishment for sending off video early­ proving that appropriate time/care hadn’t been spent on tasks: Kneeling and blindfolded. Hands tied behind the back. Daddy would force feed his cock to me, all the way to the back of my throat, coaxing out the thick saliva that only came from sputtering and choking. When his cock was wet enough he’d pick me up swiftly and lay me face down on the bed, knees still on the floor and kneel behind me…

2 minutes left.

Send.

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Lived Queerness, D/S and Submissive Kitty Boners

Were we the only ones that got wet from Rife’s guest post on Submissive Fantasy vs Submissive Reality on Sugarbutch yesterday?

It got me thinking about why? I don’t perceive that anything that Sinclair and his boy Rife offer to the interwebs is ever completely devoid of cock hardening and cunt dripping inspiration but there was also clearly another point to be made. The smut and scandal acted as a bit of foreplay for widening our understanding of D/S relationships, for the three dimensionality of all of our relationships in general and most interestingly (to me) called awareness to the intersections of lived queerness in our play.

We’ve played with service and submission. I like to curl up at Daddy’s feet as much as the next Kitty. The thought of bringing him a beer and then settling down on my knees between his legs while he reclines, one hand behind his head, biceps (un)intentionally flexed, sipping his beer, eyes intently locked on mine, both encouraging and warning me to keep my kitty paws and licks and sucks to myself until invited, watching a wet spot form under the bulge in his briefs is enough to inspire a similar saturation in my panties….

{I’ll give you a minute…}

The thought of these play dates was unquestionably arousing but the the thought of a full time 24/7 relationship left the climate in my sexual universe decidedly more arid. Hearing about lifestyle play turned play lifestyle had always been kind of a (little tiny kitty sized) boner killer for me…. meowrowr…..

Then this guest post from Rife.

Hmph… *notices tingly feeling thinking about a daily service ritual for Cock*…. interesting…

So after updating Cock on newly discovered tingles, making out voraciously and coaxing out some growls and spanks while I straddled him and purred about what such a 24/7 day might look like into his ear I got back to the “Hmph… interesting…”

Why was “the reality” so much sexier??

While Cock and I play a lot with power dynamics, use and service– we do it in play in between the context of our everyday lives– and we know that the time, intellect, insight and caring we have to put to these play periods is a huge fucking privilege.

It’s a hustle to be queer folks trying to live consistently and authentically in this world. A full time fucking hustle.

There are days when we feel like the most magick unicorn versions of ourselves spreading rainbow glitter love through the land and times when just flying back to each other safely and un-triggered at the end of the day is an accomplishment that seems touch and go. The fantasy of a full time D/S relationship just seemed kind of… frivolous and incomprehensible in relation to that hustle… both major (little tiny kitty sized) boner killers.

I think that’s why reading about “the reality” was such a (little tiny kitty sized) boner inducer. It took into account the hustle and made the fantasy accessible because, in truth, we can’t ever really separate our fantasies from our realities completely. Our relationships, our love, our partnerships, our friendships and our fucking will always be complimented by, complicated by and conscious of our queerness.

We can (and should) build affirming sacred spaces where we love and fuck each other on our own terms in wild abandon but these sacred spaces will look different from those for whom more of the world is a safe space. We might never engage in a full time D/S relationship because (for us) sometimes the process of making our way through this world feels good worked out in the bedroom and sometimes we want to come back to each other and hold each other as equals, letting all of our individual and shared parts, top, bottom, daddy, kitty or otherwise fall integrated into each other. Also, because there are days when we both need a lap to be held in– any daddy’s have room for one of us on each knee… at your feet… between your legs, pressed up against a wall… I digress. In all seriousness though we each need to, individually, and as couples, groups, families, communities, etc explore and figure out what our individual process and play will look like and we shouldn’t let the struggle keep us from finding the best fit. It’s honoring of ourselves to give space to these fantasies and the processing and healing we can access by putting them into practice.

So, in summation, and in honor of little tiny kitty sized boners, D/S relationships, queer unicorn magick, big bulges, wet chones, the fantasy AND the reality–

Go forth and serve, and play, and process and heal!

In Journey,

Cock{ASIA}

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Guidance for the Journey

Life in the world of CockAsia is lived with much consciousness. While we giggle and fuck with abandon we also process and analyze with ascetic dedication.

So with the offerings of desire, lust, passion and presence we also wanted to write a piece on what CockAsia is– something that encompassed the identities which spawned it, described the landscape through it’s conception, the process of engaging in it, and the offering of it to our communities beyond our individual meditations and isolated conversations between partners. We also knew that central to our vision was a hope that it would be something that resonated with others who were practicing similar meditations and engaged in similar conversations– that we would expand our virtual and physical salons to make space for dialogue on deconstruction that was important to us and those who we saw reflection in (as well as those that saw reflection in us) and that it would become a living, breathing, production, and reproduction of how we navigated our journeys.

We thought it only fitting that this little venture would thus be imbued with the power and the magick* of our favorite way to traverse THE JOURNEY– travel via ROADTRIP.

Roadtrips can be sweet and simple and/or intense and daunting. They boast spontaneous spirits and serendipitous occurrences. They claim to be for the light hearted and laissez faire traveler that is ready for anything, but in truth a ROADTRIP is only navigated by the dedicated and stubborn masochist in all of us.

The identity of the traveler as yielding and pliable is mercilessly and unrelentingly tested– not just tested for it’s steadfastness but more importantly for it’s state of utter obedience. The ROAD commands and demands complete deference– to weather, traffic, car trouble, dirty restrooms, bad food, interactions that are awkward at best, life/soul threatening at worst, and countless other sadistic scenarios and masters. Once you commit and the scene commences you agree to  play without safe words… when you come to your edge… the only alternative is to bite down and surrender shuttering with anticipation at future humiliations or to re-trace the rugged terrain from whence you came– feeling every patch of gravel and pothole in the road as your now scarred and bruised body is rattled and jostled. You can choose to struggle without insight gained or you can let each cringe and gasp and vibration whip your wet and weary soul onto its knees, head bowed, lustily requesting more sting and intensity– each crack cutting through the air towards you– closer to the endorphin enlightened clarity that you both fear because it means experiencing death and also desire because it offers growth and rebirth.

“The masochist struggles (with varying degrees of unsuccess)– kicks and screams against the downward pull– while still letting go and falling. The ground to which he falls is solid, the humus of which he is made, his substance. While it breaks him down, it also breaks his fall. The blacker it is, the richer it is, like fertile earth. In this damp humiliation of descent, the masochist may be close to a new insight, a fresh image, a new green possibility, a potential change.” p.83-4, Masochism, A Jungian View, Lyn Cowan

It is in honor of this juxtaposition, in knowledge of our soul’s need for “mortificatio– the operation of mortification p.63,” that we take on the posture of AMOR FATI (the love of fate p.93) as we set out on this ROADTRIP– asking The Collective Tarot for Guidance on our JOURNEY.

  1. What do we want for ourselves? In this project? In our love relationships? Life? Etc?

DISASTER (The Collective Tarot’s Tower Card) 16

This card has long been in our lives and in our hearts. Early on in our relationship Asia asked the Collective Tarot for guidance on her growing/restructuring family and her budding relationship with Cock. She knew her world was expanding but it seemed to be doing so in a way that shook the foundations of the life she had built to the core. Her pull (like all pulls) answered in the affirmative to the things we already feel but can’t yet offer voice. When she asked about her role she drew The Magician, assuring/challenging her to take accountability for her own power and use it wisely/consciously in interaction with the magic and power of others. When she asked about the relationship she drew Disaster. The Disaster card is the insight and revelation that we seek– it’s the journey to freedom if we refuse the temptation of getting stuck in coping and oppression. It begs us to “surrender with agency,” it invites us to reframe disaster as liberation rather than adversity. Of course, this is what we would draw for this passion project spurned out of a breath, a jump and leaning into a kiss/fate.

  1. What do we want for our partners? Our community? What do we want to share/express?

ACE OF KEYS (The Collective Tarot’s Fire/Wand Suit)

The Ace of Keys offers all of the raw energy of the fire suit- it crackles and blazes with newly sparked kindle. It’s a shift in energy and an invitation to be fearless and daring but it warns us to play and explore with some structure to hold safety and maintain clarity. We had both delved into community and adventure in different ways before our meeting. We had both gotten burned by the wildfires of abandon, vulnerability, trust and enthusiasm. Our meeting was a practice in re-negotiating safety in self and,the networks we were building, trust in others.

  1. What is the Heart of the Matter? How do we do that? What is our guidance?

SEVEN OF KEYS

“Each time we speak our truth- be it in intimate relationships or in direct opposition of institutions holding power- the effects ripple outward. It’s time to let your creative, brilliant self rise up and make some noise.” The Seven of Keys didn’t offer us encouragement without warning. It didn’t promise that there wouldn’t be times when our fires would burn low in danger of being extinguished. It did demand that we not shy away from our fire, that we speak with our authentic voices and we take the risk to be visible to our communities so that they might reflect love, agreement, support and revolution back to us.

In submission,

CockAsia